Discernment Counseling2017-05-18T17:38:47+00:00

Discernment Counseling for Couples on the Brink

If you or your partner are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path for your relationship, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is designed specifically for couples like you. It’s a chance for you to slow down, take a breath, and look at the options for your marriage.

Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help–and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage. The counselor will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.

The goal of Discernment Counseling is for you to gain confidence and clarity about a direction for your relationship. This is based on gaining a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.

You will each be treated with respect and compassion no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys. You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places. The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This information will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

Discernment Counseling is Short Term

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours.

This is Not for Everyone

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:

  • When one partner has already made a final decision to divorce
  • When one partner is coercing the other to participate
  • When there is danger of domestic violence

Dr. Terri Lucero, licensed psychologist and owner of Conscious Connections is pleased to offer Discernment Counseling for couples who are on the brink of divorce. Call or email today for more information.

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