Humans are wired for connection. Once you’re attached to someone, it’s really not that easy to see problems within the relationship through an objective lens. When you love someone, you often excuse and overlook their faults. This is actually a crucial aspect of successful relationships. Most of us are really counting on our partner to accept us for who we are – warts and all. However, sometimes these “faults” contribute to very unhealthy relationship patterns. You need to determine whether any of the relationship problems you are having are “deal breakers.”
Once the problems in our relationships come into full focus, it can be difficult to get your mind off of them. You may obsess or ruminate about the most recent argument. You run through conversations and comments by your partner over and over in your mind. You may be talking to your friends or family about the issues and their “helpful” suggestions are making things even more confusing. You’re hurt, overwhelmed, tired, and confused. It’s difficult to know what the “best” decision is for you and for your relationship.